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The things you do are known as compulsions. Even if you are convinced or have been told that you have Pure O just the thoughts or obsessions , read on, as most people have compulsions, but they do not recognise them as compulsions. The symptoms of HOCD can be split into five groups:.
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The above HOCD characteristics contrast markedly with typical homosexual characteristics, which include:. People who are gay, know that they are gay, beyond a shadow of a doubt. You however, I am guessing because you are reading this page , are plagued by that nagging doubt, which is a sure sign of HOCD. If you are gay your actions and your thoughts show that you are gay; you want, seek out and enjoy romantic relationships with the same sex. This in itself is a symptom of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder — that need for certainty, which I shall talk to you about in the next section.
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This need for absolutes, reassurance and concrete evidence is a classic symptom of OCD. This need to know 'for sure', is no different to someone with repetitive cleaning OCD needing to know 'for sure' that the surface they have just cleaned is absolutely clean; they always have doubt. Elsewhere in your life you do not have this need for absolute certainty. You do not need to know for sure what you are going to do next Tuesday, and you don't need to be absolutely sure about what something you did, or did not do, in the past really meant unless associated with your HOCD.
Up until you started to think you might have HOCD, you would not have needed to know for sure what your sexual preference was. Now, you probably do not need to know for sure what your profession is — you take it for granted. It is the doubt that I mentioned above, and the need to know, for sure, that leads you into the cycle of looking for reassurance, analysing everything, and testing, and carrying out compulsions.
This is what keeps it all going, it has nothing to do with your sexuality at all! If some of the things that I have written here makes sense to you, or you recognise yourself in it, it means that:. This is the question I get asked the most. Forget the denial question for a minute.
HOCD is characterised by a nagging doubt. The doubt arises because:.
A threat could be real, such as approaching a poisonous snake, or threats that are specific to you — things that disturb you. If you are anxious about the thoughts in your head relating to HOCD, your brain may pick up on this and very loosely speaking, mark them as a threat.
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Once that happens, your brain pays more attention to them, sort of, seeking them out to draw your attention to them. Now that they are in your head more often, you can use your ability to think and try to analyse what is happening to you. Initially I said to forget the denial question at the moment, and I did that for a reason. This is very important — the content of your thoughts are not important, it is what you do with your thought processes that are important.
Rather it is about recognising that this is something that happens — a pattern if you like — that occurs not only in HOCD, but in all forms of intrusive thoughts. You however, because you are reading this page, I am guessing, are plagued by that nagging doubt, which is just a symptom of HOCD. You will remember from the foregoing that every form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder OCD comprises two key elements:. CBT is a form of therapy that is directed towards 'symptom control' i.
This can be done sometimes by the therapist 'challenging' the need to carry out the symptoms that create so much anxiety and worry and are taking up so much time, and are so exhausting, and so inconvenient for the sufferer and their family, friends, and work colleagues. And sometimes the therapist can provide helpful strategies, maybe in printed form as either a worksheet or a booklet of some kind , that the sufferer may be able to use in their life to make their life a little more bearable.
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With CBT the therapist often also provides 'homework', in terms of requiring the client to maintain a diary, or daily record, of the intensity, frequency and duration of their symptoms - to use as the basis for the next 'challenging' discussion with their therapist at the next appointment. Consider a person with some form of repetitive cleaning OCD, where the obsessional thought, which they may well be unaware of, is "I might die from the unknown diseases that lurk in the dust on the furniture" this thought might arise as a result of actually knowing of someone who has died in exactly this way.
It is easy to see how that particular obsessional thought might be triggered in someone's mind simply as a result of seeing a tiny speck of dust on a shelf - thereby increasing their anxiety level. It is very very difficult for someone with a repetitive cleaning form of OCD to escape their obsession and the cause of their troublesome symptoms - short of maybe going to live in an industrial electronics dust free 'clean room' where silicon wafers are manufactured and processed!
We are, all of us, effectively surrounded by people; men; women; some the same sex; some the opposite sex; some attractive; some not so attractive; at work; in the media; on the train; at the station; in the shops; on the news bulletins; presenting weather forecasts etc.
And, dammit, even our own family is made up of people! In this world, it is nigh on impossible to escape people! HOCD must be one of the worst types of OCD for any human being to have - not least because it concerns such a personal and private area of you life - and is a concern that you can have that it is almost impossible to raise and discuss with other people in your life for fear of 'being laughed at', or maybe knowing that your friends simply wouldn't understand what is happening to you, or just how bad and isolated you feel as a result of your HOCD.
But if you are suffering from HOCD, you are not suffering from depression.
These thoughts and ideas can be identified, and reversed where necessary, using specialised therapy in combination with Hypnosis. I have heard it ALL before and understand the symptoms and the suffering. Contact Peter to make an appointment for therapy or a free initial consultation. These therapies are considered to be both unethical and harmful. The highest-profile advocates of conversion therapy today tend to be fundamentalist Christian groups and other organizations which use a religious justification for the therapy rather than speaking of homosexuality as 'a disease'.
More recent clinical techniques used in the United States have been limited to counselling, visualisation, social skills training, psychoanalytic therapy, and spiritual interventions such as 'prayer and group support and pressure', though there are some reports of aversive treatments through unlicensed practice as late as the s. Following a meeting in April all the major psychological professional bodies in the UK have concluded that conversion therapy is unethical and potentially harmful.
Statements to this effect have been disseminated among psychological professionals. This official position also recognisess that clients with conflicted feelings around sexuality should not be discouraged from seeking help. Many psychotherapists routinely work with people who are struggling with inner conflict, although not so many are experienced in HOCD:.
Here at The Surrey Hypnotherapy Clinic we are supportive of anyone who is experiencing any kind of inner conflict regarding their sexuality, as is usually the case with those experiencing Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder also known as Sexual Orientation OCD. So if you believe that you are sexually oriented one way, and you are now having doubts, and think that your sexual orientation may have changed to another, just contact Peter at The Surrey Hypnotherapy Clinic and ask for a consultation to speak to Peter about your problem.
Situated in a quiet, discreet, setting with easy, and free, parking - you are assured that your consultations will be discreet, private and confidential. Therapies that facilitate effortless and transformational change in thoughts, feelings and behaviour mean that a number of problems of psychological or emotional origin can be helped.
Select the button below for more information about symptoms and the therapies that may be able help you, or instead just e-mail Peter to arrange a convenient time for a consultation. Some other areas also benefitting from Online Hypnotherapy:. Alcohol Addiction. Drug Addiction. Food Addiction.
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